48 questions for couples to know each other (even better)

Sometimes conversation runs on autopilot, even for couples who have been together for years. Here are questions for couples in five categories, from silly to deep, for a dinner, a road trip or a video call.

How to use them

Pick a category and take turns: one asks, the other answers, then switch. No need to go through all of them at once. Some questions are good for a whole evening of conversation.

To get to know each other better

What was the first thing you noticed about me?
Which song reminds you of us?
What is your favorite childhood memory?
What did you want to be when you were a kid?
Where do you feel most at peace?
Which of my habits do you find the funniest?
What food reminds you of your family?
What are you most proud of in your life so far?
What compliment have you never forgotten?
What does your perfect day look like, from waking up to going to bed?
What silly fear do you still have?
Who has influenced you the most so far?

Fun questions

If we were a movie couple, which one would we be?
Which of us would survive longer in a zombie apocalypse?
What is the weirdest food you have ever liked?
If you could have a superpower for just one day, what would it be?
What would our band be called?
Which of us is more likely to forget where the keys are?
Which of my quirks would you copy at a costume party?
If we won a trip tomorrow, where would we go?
What TV show do you secretly watch?
What is the worst gift you have ever received?

About our relationship

When did you realize you liked me?
What has been our best date so far?
What do I do that makes you feel loved?
When did you feel most cared for by me?
What is our favorite inside joke?
What do you think we do really well together?
Is there something you would like us to do more often?
How do you prefer to make up after an argument?
Which small routine of ours do you like most?
What has changed in you since we started dating?

Deep questions

What does a healthy relationship mean to you?
What advice would you give to yourself ten years ago?
What do you need on a hard day?
Which decision changed the course of your life?
What would you give up to be happier?
What have you never told anyone but would like to tell me?
How do you want to be remembered?
What is your biggest insecurity in love?

About the future

Where do you picture yourself living ten years from now?
Which trip do we need to take together before we grow old?
What does our ideal home look like?
What tradition would you like us to start?
Which of your dreams can I help make come true?
How do you want to celebrate our ten years together?
What new thing would you like to learn with me?
What can never be missing from our future?

Turn the questions into a game

In LovUp, couple quizzes do this for you: each of you answers on your own phone, and the app shows where you match and where you surprised each other. It works from afar too, if you are in a long-distance relationship. Want a quick start? Take the love language test.

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Frequently asked questions

What are good questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend?

Open questions work best, like “what do I do that makes you feel loved?” or “what has been our best date so far?”. They bring out stories instead of one-word answers.

How do you ask couple questions without it feeling awkward?

Make it a game: take turns, start with the fun ones and save the deep ones for when the conversation is flowing.

Is there an app with questions for couples?

Yes. LovUp has quizzes that each partner answers on their own phone before comparing answers, free on iPhone and Android.